Confidential treatment · Colorado
The affair is out, or about to be. Whether it happened once or it keeps happening, what you do next matters more than what you did. Treatment here deals with the why underneath, so this becomes the turning point instead of the next chapter of the pattern.
Since 2017Joint Commission accreditedCSAT supervised care
You're the one who was betrayed? There's a page written for you
Naming it honestly
The men we treat aren't villains, and they usually aren't looking for a way out of their marriages. They're capable, often successful men living with a divide: one life where they're known, and another where the stakes feel lower. If any of this sounds familiar, you're in the right place.
None of that means the love was a lie. It means closeness itself became the threat, and that's treatable.
The thing beneath the thing
A man caught in this pattern usually isn't running toward someone. He's running from being fully known. An affair offers the feeling of being seen without the risk of being seen completely, and for a man who learned early that closeness isn't safe, that trade is magnetic. We call what's underneath an intimacy disorder, and treating it is the difference between promising it will never happen again and actually becoming a man it doesn't happen to. If we only stopped the affairs, we'd be leaving the engine running.
The Valiant approach
Our clinical team is supervised by founder Michael Dinneen, LCSW, CSAT-S, and includes therapists who specialize in infidelity, compulsive behavior, and intimacy disorders. This is not a general rehab that also sees affairs. Intimacy disorders are the center of what we do. Meet the team
Men 26 and older, in a program built to run 90 days: residential treatment to interrupt the pattern, then day treatment and IOP as recovery takes hold and life resumes. We start with 30 days and evaluate honestly from there.
Individual and group therapy, trauma work, and a daily rhythm of movement, meditation, and outdoor experiential therapy in the Colorado wild. A man learns to be known here, first in the brotherhood, then at home. The Wellness Program
Infidelity is a relationship injury, and it heals relationally. Betrayed spouses get education, support, and their own healing track, including Loving Leverage, our founder's approach for families. Betrayal is a trauma here, and we treat it like one.
Straight answers
Yes. When affairs keep happening despite real remorse and real consequences, that's a pattern, not a character verdict. Patterns have drivers, and the drivers respond to treatment: the avoidance of being truly known, the feelings that never learned to be felt, the trauma that made closeness feel dangerous. We treat what drives it, not just the behavior it produces.
Not every affair calls for residential treatment, and we'll tell you honestly if yours doesn't. But one affair is rarely a bolt from the blue. It usually grows out of disconnection that was building for years, sometimes since long before the marriage. An honest assessment tells you which situation you're in, and what the right level of help actually looks like.
Yes, foundationally. Many of the men we treat are professionals with careers, licenses, and reputations to protect, and the program is built accordingly. The first call is confidential too, whether it comes from you or from someone who loves you.
Our full program is 90 days, and that's where we see the best results by a wide margin. Real change to the patterns underneath compulsive behavior takes longer than a month. We start with 30 days, evaluate honestly at that point, and go from there. Most men who begin choose to stay.
Valiant Living is primarily a private pay program, which is what allows us to run the level of clinical care and staff ratios we do. We're out of network with most insurance companies, but we work directly with them on your behalf to maximize whatever coverage is possible. A confidential call is the fastest way to an honest answer about your situation.
Many do, and some come out more honest than they ever were before the discovery. We can't promise that, and we won't pretend to. What we can promise is that both of you get real treatment: your work on the pattern and what's underneath it, and genuine support for her, because betrayal is a trauma and we treat it like one. Bringing families back together is the entire point of this place.
The pattern lives in the dark. One honest call turns the lights on.
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