Episode Summary

The addictive patterns that tear relationships apart can actually become the path to deeper connection when partners learn to face them together. In this deeply moving episode, couple therapists Lana Isaacson and Jason Polk share professional wisdom and personal experiences about the complex journey of recovery within committed relationships.

They introduce the concept of “the addiction dance”—those unconscious, destructive patterns couples unknowingly co-create that keep them trapped in cycles of disconnection. Both therapists candidly discuss their own experiences with addiction and family systems, demonstrating how healing occurs when we move beyond shame to examine what drives our behaviors.

“The pattern is the enemy, not your partner,” becomes a revolutionary frame that allows couples to stand together rather than against each other. This shift creates space for vulnerability, which both therapists identify as the essential ingredient for rebuilding trust. Through powerful examples, they illustrate how true healing happens when a partner’s pain is fully witnessed rather than fixed or dismissed.

Particularly moving is the discussion about disclosure in recovery relationships—that terrifying process of allowing yourself to be fully known after years of hiding. As one partner shared, “When you experience love for the first time because they’ve seen all of you and still choose you…that’s another level I want for everyone.”

Whether you’re navigating recovery as a couple, supporting loved ones through addiction, or simply wanting healthier relationship patterns, this conversation offers practical wisdom and profound hope. Call us at 720-756-7941 to learn how Valiant Living can support your journey toward authentic connection.